How to Have the Most Fulfilling Sexual Submissive Fantasy Life EVER!

Being a Dominant Mistress is MY Fantasy - What's yours?

You’ve harbored sexual submissive fantasies for years.  You’ve spent countless hours hunting the internet for femdom porn and spent thousands on mistress phone sex.  No matter what you do there remains a longing inside. There’s an itch that you just can’t scratch growing stronger and causing frustration, resentment and conflict in every area of your life.  The obsession grows causing you to do things you normally would never do just to get that rush in hopes of finally obtaining the goal of fulfilling your sexual needs.

What if I promised you that you could fulfill all of your sexual fantasies in a way that would not only fulfills your sexual needs but enhance every single area of your life?  Could you commit to that?

Ideally we all want the perfect relationship and to be in love, however it’s really near to impossible to get everything you need in one person.  Sure you’d love to find a wife that is kinky and dominant but are you really going to want that to be part of your day to day reality? It’s pretty damn hard to balance a day to day partnership where someone must always be in control. After all isn’t this why you want to escape and lose some of that control?  Even the most open-minded woman that agrees to marry you considering your fetishes and kinky sexual will grow tired of your sexual neediness and passive aggressive attempts.  I know it doesn’t seem this way but in HER eyes this is exactly the impression she is getting.

At least 6 out of 10 of my callers confess that they have tried to get their wife interested. Not only did they fail but succeeded in completely turning her off to the idea entirely.  She may have been somewhat receptive, after all she loves you and wants you to be happy, but once she sees what a selfish pervert you are she shut it down completely and forbids you to ever bring it up again. Sound familiar?  I know you’re not trying to be selfish but you’re so needing to express yourself that it often comes across this way.

Or you have a sexually open-minded girlfriend who watches dirty movies with you, let’s you wear her panties and might in fuck you in the ass with a strap-on.  Six months later she’s history because she realizes you’re just too much work or you decide that she’s just not the kind of girl you want to marry. If you are lucky enough to meet a mistress, a naturally dominant woman and her expectations are too high for you to reach. This is why she has many slaves and you just a speck of dust in her world.  Rather than make an attempt to stand out, become useful and important to her, you make excuses and run away.

Seriously Evaluating Your Commitment to Sexual Submission

Face the facts and be honest with yourself.  Do you find your sexual submission stronger during times of stress?  Are you submissive after you have an orgasm?  Do you find these feelings, sexual submission only happening a few times a month or a few times a year? If so, is it really fair to make a commitment to another person?  If you find someone willing to engage in fantasy with you during the time that it’s “good” for you then are you really accomplishing what you’re ultimately looking for?  How important is it to you? These are the things that you need to seriously sit down and evaluate before taking the journey.

The Duality of Desire

Some people refer to it as yin and yang. It’s a polarity of positive and negative energy. Not to say that negative is a bad thing but two opposite ends of the spectrum.  Imagine dominance and submission being like that.  Projective and receptive energies and the truth is we all move back and forth.  If you spend too much time on one end of the spectrum then it only makes sense you would crave the other side/end.  Frustrations build and you find yourself almost drowning in desire, addicted to release longing to escape only to find yourself empty and guilt ridden.

Balance is healthy but it takes works to achieve.  The key to it all is to enjoy whichever end of the spectrum you visit.  Ideally your day to day should be one where you are in control of your movement, decisions and life.  This includes who you submit to and your boundaries.  This is why “safe, sane and consensual” are essential terms used in alternative sex (BDSM, Fetish & Role-Play).  Being responsible is the only way you will truly succeed on this journey.  The moment your actions are not enhancing your well being is the moment you stop and reevaluate your intentions.

I find it easier to create personas. I’ll use myself as the example.

Josephine is an intelligent, sensitive and spiritual woman. Her day to day she is busy gardening, networking with people over various projects and charities.  Although confident people would never suspect that there is a whole “other” side to her.

Goddess Josephine is all of the above AND a sexual woman that enjoys being in control and playing kinky games that stimulate the mind, body and spirit. She can be sensual and determined or strict and cruel. Her intention is to own you and make you property. To control every aspect of your life.

Hardcore Josephine is a bit bridled and only comes out one rare occasion when she fully engaged in a dynamic with someone who can appreciate a woman that is intense, thrives on humiliation, emasculation and total control.

So I have three much defined personas and although I can elaborate I think you get the idea, right? What I’ve learned over the years is that there is a time and place for everything even my kinky alters.  If I feel my urges brewing and Goddess Josephine needs some special attention I’ll plan it and allow myself to fully engage and fulfill my desires.  I give myself permission to be whoever I want to be but I also teach myself to do it constructively.

Who is Your Sexual Fantasy Alter?

Take a quiet moment and think about your personas.  It might feel strange or funny at first but this really works.  Here is a list of questions;

1)      Using your BIGGEST GREATEST sexual fantasy what part do you play? Describe what you look like, what you are wearing, your favorite things to do and how you orgasm in your fantasy. Example: dildo in my ass being fucked by a sexy woman, sucking a man’s dick, etc.

2)      Now close your eyes and imagine that person in your fantasy. Give that person a name.  It’s ok if it sounds stupid. You can always change it later as you begin to discover your inner person.

3)      Who is the person most people see? The dad, husband, business man, etc. Describe what he looks like, what people think of him and most importantly what you think of yourself.

4)      Now using a percentage write down how much time you WISH you could spend being each persona. Example:  Josephine 60%, Goddess Josephine 25%, Bitch Goddess 15%. Be realistic and honest. Don’t do it while your cock is hard.  Next to the percentage try and explain why you assigned that percentage.

5)      Now write down the challenges you’re faced with in expressing your other alternate personas. Is it time, money, fear or understanding? Really think about this and write it down.

 

 

Going back to number 2, let’s completely define your fantasy person making him (or her) a completely different person who does not have any of the responsibilities of your day to day person. Begin referring to them in the third person.  I know it sounds silly but it’s a VERY effective tool, especially when trying to communicate with a Mistress.  Your primary person, that’s your day to day, will be the spokesperson for all of your alternate personas.  He decides the appropriate time to allow the “other” to have some fun. He feels the need welling inside and it’s up to him to create a safe place for his alter to express and enjoy.

 

Here’s an example of a chat between John and myself. John is a very successful lawyer who is a true alpha personality.

 

“Goddess Josephine, Johnny Boy wants to know if he can come out and play. I’m very busy but I told him I would give him a few hours window if it’s ok with you Goddess.”

 

Josephine: “Hmmmm well tell me what kind of mood Johnny Boy is in and maybe I’ll arrange something.”

 

“Goddess Josephine,  Johnny Boy has been very naughty and keeps trying to come out without permission. He was watching porn last night and jerking off. I’m sorry Goddess I couldn’t control him.”

 

Josephine: “It sounds like Johnny Boy is very horny and needs have a little fun. Why don’t we plan something special for him? Of course first he must be punished.”

 

As you continue to work with your alter you’ll get better and better at communicating his/her (sissy) needs. Even though it feels silly and uncomfortable at first you’ll soon learn how to have fun and over time, with some training learn how to balance your fantasy alter with your everyday self.  I am happy to work with you on this.

 

But I REALLY Want a Dominant Mistress to Control Me!

Then you find an intelligent, compassionate and strong woman, a Domina, which understands the emotional, spiritual and sexual nature of dominance and submission. If you’re not really submissive you’ll still need help and guidance in balancing your day to day with your sexual alters.  Look at her as your teacher or trainer. She is someone you respect enough to help you make decisions and who sets the parameters of how you’ll safely express your sexual desires.

The woman you chose to relinquish control to will want some type of commitment. It just isn’t fair to expect her to give without offering “something” in exchange. Once again you evaluate your needs, intentions and how important this journey is to you.  Outline your commitment to her and then negotiate the type of relationship you’ll have.

Dear Goddess Josephine,

You are the woman of my dreams. I respect your intelligence and trust your intuition. I would be honored if you would accept me as a student to help me discover and fulfill my emotional, spiritual and sexual fantasies.  I realize that I need your guidance in balancing all of this so that I can be the best that I can be so that I can also be that for you.  As part of my commitment I offer you;

 

1)      Total obedience and submission. I will not orgasm without your permission.

2)      I can afford to call you three times a month for 30 minutes each call.

3)      I promise to report to you via email, as required in your training program at least 3 times per week.

4)      I will comply with every order and if for some reason I cannot comply I will beg to be punished.

5)      To show my appreciation I will also include tributes and gifts monthly as part of my budget.

 

Please accept this mission of submission.  I do have a few limits:

 

1)      No marking on my body. I am married.

2)      No bi activities

3)      No public acts of submission or humiliation

Thank you Goddess Josephine.

Respectfully,

John Wants to Be Your Slave

The above can apply to any scenario. Maybe your sexual alter is only into tease and denial or crossdressing, help with realizing his inner girl, without all the dominance and submission. This is fine but remember you still need to relinquish *some* control to the one who guides you.  It’s up to you to communicate what these needs are and what you offer her in exchange for her help.

All of this could easily apply to a girlfriend of wife that is receptive to alternative sexual fantasies.  You simply define your sexual alter, give him a name and animate his persona a bit (make it more fun for her) and whenever your sexual alter needs to express themselves you submit a request to your partner/lover clearly defining what you need and what you offer in exchange. It’s essential that you select a beginning and an end. Remember that you are not the only one that has limits. Be sure to ask her what hers are.

Dear Beloved Wife,

I am requesting time for Johnny Boy to come out and play.  I have arranged the time Saturday night at 6PM until Sunday 12:00PM. To show his appreciation Johnny Boy would like to prepare a wonderful meal for you and serve you as the Queen you are. In addition Johnny Boy promises to clean the bathroom and bedroom spotless so that you can relax and completely focus on your pleasure. He has purchased some special massage oil, scented candles and a new vibrator to provide you with pleasure.

Johnny Boy REALLY needs a spanking and to be fucked in the ass with a strap-on dildo. He has been obsessed with this for days and it’s making it difficult for me to concentrate at work. I beg you to please consider this request.

Love,

Husband

The two of you can set any parameters you want. Although verbal communication is important, sometimes it’s best to write down the details and plan it on paper.

Fulfilling Sexual Fantasies

If you’ve struggled with guilt or confusion over your sexual fantasies you’re not alone. I’m not suggesting that you expose yourself or come out of any closet.  I do believe that many of you fear liking your fantasies so much that it will spill over into other areas of your life and ruin you.  This doesn’t have to be the case IF you approach this intelligently and solicit some help and support.  After all it’s really not going to go away. Somehow or another it will reappear in your life. Perhaps it is time to find balance and in doing so it will enhance every area of your life because you will be a happy fulfilled person.

If a professional phone mistress is the road you take then you should complete all of the list and evaluations above.  Sit down and realistically work out a budget.  The more of commitment you can make the larger the results. If it means you must sacrifice certain things to afford her training then you do. Only you can decide how important it really is.  It won’t happen overnight. Not only do you figure out a monetary budget but how much time you can afford to this journey with her. You should clearly articulate this to her along with your level of commitment and what you expect in return.

I am available to accept new students; however my requirement is that you prearrange and prepaid at least a 45 min consultation to discuss your options and begin your program.  I will set aside that time for you so it’s important that you’re on time. If you do not show up for our appointment I’m afraid you forfeit your prepayment.  If you reschedule do so at least 24 hours in advance.  I do this to make sure you’re commitment to the journey. You are not required to call 45 min each time there after but the first conversation is very important to work out and discuss your sexual alters. You will also submit a letter of commitment and a tribute would also be nice to show sincerity.

If you absolutely can not talk on the phone you can arrange a text session www.sexytexting.com or order a custom audio www.eroticaudios.com at least a 20 min audio. This will be delivered to you to outline the rules after you send me your mission letter.

Just be open and honest with me. You’ll find me easy to talk to and quite playful.  Even though it’s over the phone and email we can still share a wonderful and fulfilling dynamic.

As always I love hearing your feedback, ideas and will answer all questions in the comments section below. Be sure to check subscribe to this topic so you’ll be notified by email on all replies.

 


 

34 comments to How to Have the Most Fulfilling Sexual Submissive Fantasy Life EVER!

  • erika slut

    Mss. Josephine, you are the first mistress I send a email. I serach i many web sites and you are the perfect mistress.

  • Carmelo

    Dear Goddess Josephine,

    Thank you for posting this article. About 10 years ago my wife, then girlfriend, and I talked about our sexual fantasies. I told her that I loved a woman who took control and enjoyed being worshipped. And she loved a man who would take control of her desires and needs. I really wanted her to take control of me but I knew when it came to sex I was also submissive. So being the submissive I am and knowing my sole purpose is to please her, I became that dominant man for her. However, my submissive and sissy needs are rarely fulfilled- other than her allowing me to clean the cum from in here (which I love doing).

    This article really got me thinking about who I am and what I really want sexually. I would say that I have two personas:
    1) Carmelo, the father and husband who takes control of my wife’s sexual needs. As manly as I am, I am still here to always please her and serve her in every aspect of her life. That includes everything in our life: cooking. cleaning, household chores, taking care of our son, etc… I think that is the submissive in me. However, there is still the submissive sexual me whom I call Melanie.
    2) Melanie is the submissive sissy that comes out to play when the wife is away. I sometimes thought that Melanie was more me than Carmelo but after reading this article I came to realize that Melanie is not a full time persona. Rather, she is a part time persona who only comes out when my wife is gone because Carmelo understand his wife’s needs. I thought I couldn’t have both personas, that I had to choose one. But this article helps me accept and realize that I can have multiple personas.

    Melanie is a sissy slut that loves to wear sexy panties and slutty outfits. She loves to be dominated by a strong woman who will help explore and push her sexual fantasies.

    Goddess, I have begun my 7 day Tease and Denial program. I am on day 2 and I already know that you are in complete control of my cock. I am here to serve and please you. My sexual pleasure does not matter anymore. What matters is your pleasure. I pledge my cock and self to you and in time I hope you can come trust me and realize I am nothing but sincere.

    I hope to talk to you soon.

    Sincerely yours,

    Carmelo (sissy Melanie)

  • dan

    I came across LDW (through suckpatrol) over the past couple of months, was instantly taken by how all of the ladies seemed to so understand what I thought were unique thoughts and desires, not to mention taboo from a societal standpoint. As I read each blog and profile, I became more entranced and called a number of the mistresses. I have enjoyed each, but when I came across Goddess Josephine’s profile and blog, I was immediately moved to another level, of arousal, curiousity, and yes, even fear.

    This past week, I had my first calls and discussions with Goddess Josephine, and in just 5 short (orgasm free!) days, I have learned the most important lesson. That this is all about her, not about me. It is about her being in control, and about me giving her that control. I thank her for giving me a second chance to prove my commitment, and intend to learn from my selfish mistakes and follow through on my commitment to her, and I post this as a first sign of my commitment.

    I had not actually seen this post before tonight, but have found it very insightful and related to so much of it, and I was inspired to try to come up with my personas, and write out my commitment to Goddess Josephine.

    My personas:
    1. Dan – the person most people see, is a professional, capable, intelligent and caring man. Six feet tall, 200lbs, athletic, handsome, graying in a distinguished way, and considered good looking. I am a family man: loving husband and father. I am professional and successful in my work. I am thankful for and cherish all of the gifts that I have been given and what I have accomplished and can provide for my family. However, like the moth to the flame, I return to my secret desires again and again…
    2. danny – outside of my professional life, where I need to have more of an alpha persona, i tend to be more laid back and take an eager to please approach. Atlhough subtle, I would say that I am in more of a female led relationship, although at times I find myself pushing back, deep down I seem to know that this is the best relationship for me
    3. danielle – this is the persona, where my most eager to please and submissive fantasies emerge. While I am most often physically pleasing a man, I am always most aroused if I am doing it under the control and to please a sexy, confident dominant woman. More of sensual domina, with intense emotions and intelligent domination and coercion. Is it any wonder I am drawn to Goddess Josephine?

    In terms of my commitment, your words work very well for me, although I am sure our relationship will evolve.

    Dear Goddess Josephine,
    You are the woman of my dreams. I respect your intelligence and trust your intuition. I would be honored if you would accept me as a student to help me discover and fulfill my emotional, spiritual and sexual fantasies. I realize that I need your guidance in balancing all of this so that I can be the best that I can be so that I can also be that for you. As part of my commitment I offer you;

    1) Total obedience and submission. I will not orgasm without your permission.
    2) I can afford to call you three times a month for 30 minutes each call. (I will do my best to afford this – perhaps 2x/month or 20-minute calls could work )
    3) I promise to report to you via email, as required in your training program at least 3 times per week.
    4) I will comply with every order and if for some reason I cannot comply I will beg to be punished.
    5) To show my appreciation I will also include tributes and gifts monthly as part of my budget.

    Please accept this mission of submission. I do have a few limits:

    1) No marking on my body. I am married.
    2) I have limited time for calls unless traveling on business. So some months might have more or longer calls, while some have fewer.
    3) I may not always be able to fulfill your requirements as quickly as I would like, but I will do my best.
    4) I have so many bi fantasies, but I am and will be very cautious and risk averse in assignments that involve others. I will work hard to trust you and complete the assignments, or beg to be punished.

  • noreen

    i want to submit to my hubby nad know i get that he want to submit to me. we both have submissive nature. what should we do know. any idea!

    • Josephine

      Noreen I think you should sit down, talk about what you each really want and then perhaps take turns topping each other. Or find a mistress to control both of you.

      • noreen

        we have talk…its really difficult for us to include 3rd person as our master or mistress…can we change role…i mean for one week he will submit to me next week i become sub…how much effective is this? last night i was spanking my self on my bare butt…he caught me and i told him to spank over my butt….he did that i enjoyed…but after that he told me to do same on him…i did but not enjoyed much…any suggestions without involving 3rd person…thanks

  • sj

    Goddess Josephine – This is one of the most interesting and thought provoking blogs I have ever read. As far as my background, I have been calling LDW, as well as another service, for the about the last 2 years. (Note. I have actually talked to you.) The conversations with the “ladies” sometimes last as few as 10 minutes to as long as several hours. I believe I have 2 persona, one typical male and the other definitely softer/submissive. As far as the persona issue, to be honest I have really battled with the urge to display the typical male persona and allow the softer side to come out only infrequently, however over the last 12 months the softer side seems to definitely be taking the upper hand. I tend to think about it everyday, whereas when I was younger I could bury it for years at a time. As far as the current % of typical male side to softer side, I say depending on the mood and situation, it swings from 90/10 to 10/90. Besides clothing and wigs, I have actually let my hair grow out a bit and have occasionally gotten a manicure. Pretty crazy huh? What is s/j to do?

    • Josephine

      My first question would be how old you are and how long you’ve explored your “softer” side, as you call it. As we mature and through life experiences we naturally mellow out and allow ourselves to be freer. For instance when I was first coming out and discovered my sexual dominance I wasn’t nearly as seasoned as I am now. Today I am more bridled and constructive. I also notice that as I get older I can balance my dominant sexual desires more easily with my day to day.

      I think it’s just easier to define things, have a beginning and ending. But this also doesn’t mean that it can’t become part of your daily life brining you peace and happiness. Why on earth would that be consider crazy and if anyone accuses you of that ask them, “What makes you truly happy?”

  • castaway

    Ms. Josephine,

    This is coming a bit late but I just wanted to say that this post was an amazing read, not to mention a very fertile jumping off point for some brainstorming. Of course, the captioned picture at the top certainly contains a great deal of inspiration as well. I will try to do some reflection and report back with what I come up with.

  • susan9316

    Dear Goddess Josephine

    Very thoughtful comments. Thanks so much for taking the time to read what i wrote. I agree that it is more than 20% , especially in the context of being submissive. I have long wanted to be submissive to the control of a dominant woman. My submission to please and serve can easily extend into other areas of my life, aided by your guidance. I fully embrace female supremacy and in particular you as the Goddess that i seek to serve. Submission to a man is not an interest except if it would please you and demonstrate my readiness to do as directed and put aside any of the false pride of a male ego. Although my desire for submission likely does extend beyond the sexual, sex is such an elemental part of our life force it is essential. To give over control of my sexuality and more to you is both spiritual and sexual at once. To be feminized to is to embrace my emasculation. Plus, panties and bras and more are just so pretty and girlie, how can i not love it!

  • ladyspet

    To match Goddess Josephine’s I have 3 personae
    1) Paul is an intelligent, funny, confident and caring man and a good conversationalist. He is a good friend to women. He is very logical and mathematical. He loves to read, especially history and the challenge of learning new things and solving problems. That is why he went into computer programming as a second career. He has been an expert chess player when he played in tournaments. He is currently learning how to be a more proficient Ballroom dancer, which is a challenge because he has to shed his submissive nature on the dance floor. He has to learn to be a strong leader on the dance floor so the woman he is with looks good. He is also quite spiritual and recognizes there are things larger than himself.
    2) Lady’s pet (hence my nickname) has a desire to be in a relationship that can best be described as a Female Led Relationship. He gives Her total control and surrenders all power to Her. While we might be vanilla in public, when at home She is the Mistress of the house, and he is there to serve all Her needs. He is at Her beck and call sexually. She will very often emphasize Her power over him with spanking and the effective use of the strap on.
    3) Totally Humiliated Lady’s slut is expressed in 2 fantasies. Both more or less enter “slut” ville. The first involves being physically overpowered by a woman. The prominent one is an erotic mixed wrestling scenario. He always loses. ( I posted a poll about this topic. The first option expresses this Lady’s pet’s desire). But it can also go as far as being “raped” by a woman. The other is he is stripped naked (CFNM) before one or many women. And they use him as a slut for the evening. It could involve emasculation and feminization but not always.
    As far as percentages a very rough estimate would be 70% Paul, 15% Lady’s pet and 15% Lady’s slut. But ask me tomorrow and those percentages might change.

    • Josephine

      Do you think that lady’s slut is actually a personae or just some looming fantasy’s of Lady’s Pet? I ask that because humiliation and emasculation is often about surrendering or losing control. Lady’s Pet extreme desires to be owned and controlled by a woman.

      • ladyspet

        I think You are right. Lady’s pet is all one alternate persona. I artificially tried to match Your 3 that You mentioned. Lady’s pet can be the obedient husband of a dominant wife (as in a female led relationship) to being a total slut for Her. The extreme of which would be sissification. The reason i say this is about 10 years ago i had a long distance relationship( i lived in Indiana and She in West Virginia) with a Mistress who was training me to become her TPE slave. It lasted off and on for 2 years. i got to visit her perhaps 5 or 6 times. On one of the visits she had me dressed fem ( i dont remember the exact outfit but it included a short skirt nylons and heels) and i did house work while she watched. i did it because She wanted me to do it, but it was exciting for me as well. I felt completely emasculated and very submissive and of course completely out of control as she had all the control. Speaking of control, Paul just informed me it is time to give him back control because he has to get back to studying for his certification exam.

        • Josephine

          Three isn’t required btw. It was just an example. Hell you could have 6 of them! A little complicated in balancing but what the hell, right?

          • Paul

            This is true. But i don’t think my John Travolta Saturday Night Fever Ballroom dancer extraordinaire, or the eminent professor of history who can answer all your questions about the Battle of Gettysburg would qualify since they are out there for all to see. Don’t these alternate personae have to be for the most part hidden? i have enough trouble keeping track of LP especially in my current situation where he wants to be out and playing all the time. But i do wonder sometimes in light of the experience i shared in my last comment if there is in fact a 3rd persona lurking around inside me hidden even from myself. And that one is very sissy. Or is that just a kinkier side of LP?

            • Josephine

              I think the whole point of discovering and giving definition to these alters is so that you can discreetly get pleasure. In no way did I mean that you should allow them to come “out” to the public, per se. They are and should be private parts of yourself. Just like any other private part of your life you share it with a trusted lover or friend.

              as for your feminine inner sissy…. to be honest a huge dose of emasculation is probably what you really need. I would not call it kinky but a transformational tool to help you erase that ego and really relinquish control.

  • susan9316

    I will send coffee once a month as weel

  • susan9316

    Ladyspet and bradleyboy.

    It seems that Goddess ran out of coffee and has directed us to work this out so that it does not happen again. Are we the three she means? If so, let’s do as she says and figure out a plan that we can work together on to make sure this does not happen again. Pleasing Goddess is at the top of my list and her coffee needs to be a priority for her slaves. Who is in? Suggestions to coordinate?

    • ladyspet

      i plan on sending her a package of coffee once a month. Right now that is all i can afford. a package on her wish list is 24 t disks. i am sure She does more than 1 cup a day. if we each do one a month that should cover it.

  • bradley boy

    I’e read through your blog post on the fantasy assignment and given it some thought over the last day. I’m sending you the feedback on the alternative persona as you had asked during our phone call on Tuesday.> > Perhaps it is the fact I am in charge at work and live a fairly ordered life, but I’ve got a variety of fantaises that keep swirling around in my mind and not sure how to seprate what is most desired, so listing out the top few.> > As far as a name I’ve given this persona, it is either bradley boy or Brittany. Bradley boy is what I”v eused on the enchantricx empire site and Brittany is person that used to do my hair until she moved last year. She was very flirty, always dressed stylish, and not only had me thinking about her sexually, but also as someone who would dominate me and that i’d serve. not sure all the reasons I had these thoughts, but they seemed to germinate and grow with each visit to get my hair cut. > > Who my persona is a submissive sissy – one who desires to follow orders from a domiant woman and serve her as she deisres. There is an aspect of tease/denial and chssity trianig, but it serves ofr more than just punsihment. it is to help build up my orgasm and control so i can better please the dominant woman (that is nboth fantasy and real desire as I shared in the call that I am pretty weak with my orgasms and control). It is also one in which I am punished regularly, given doses of verbal and physical humiliation, and pushesme into some areas of feminization/sissification.> > My alternative persona is one I wish could be out as much as 20 – 25% of the time. I work about 60 hours per week and travel a fair amount, so not always able to come out as much as I’d like. And I also have desires to be a laid back guy without a care in the world. But, while work is part of the limits, I also think my fear of exploring the unknown – it is almost easier to keep this as a fantasy in my mind than to actually to do something about it. I have always been in relationships with women and enjoyed them, but this fantasy has me questioning my manhood (not that there is alot of it asI’m only 6’0 and 155 pounds soaking wet) and what I and/or others expect a man to be like.

    • Josephine

      when we first explored cock control I didn’t know about your sissy self. I’m always intrigued with sissies. I would love to help you cultivate Brittany and let her come out to play! (wink)

  • susan9316

    Dear Goddess Josephine

    If we can, let’s get the first question out of the way – yes i would love to kiss your ass. for as long as permitted.

    I really do want a dominant woman to control me and i want that woman to be you. i am totally addicted to you and offer you my obedience and submission. I will not orgasm without your permission. Yes, my sissystick is hard so I need some perspective to evaluate the percentages and recognize the duality of desire.

    1) Using your BIGGEST GREATEST sexual fantasy what part do you play? Describe what you look like, what you are wearing, your favorite things to do and how you orgasm in your fantasy. Example: dildo in my ass being fucked by a sexy woman, sucking a man’s dick, etc.
    In my biggest and greatest sexual fantasy I am the plaything of a dominant woman who will use me, exhibit me and command me as she sees fit. My cock is hers to abuse and I will make myself available to accept whatever she chooses. CBT, spanking and more. Beyond this she chooses to take away any claims I might have to being a man. I am feminized, prettied, shaved, scented and offered to others for their amusement and her enjoyment. Her wish is my command.
    On a special day I am reminded that what was once a fantasy of mine is now real. My Goddess has invited her friends for the ceremony of my changeover. For this event I am freshly shaved and perfumed. Goddess puts out my outfit, including a silk ivory colored pair of panties and a matching bra, perhaps a touch of sparkle. There is a pink ribbon on my sissy clitty. My toenails and finger nails are polished red. I slip on my thigh high stockings and I am then dressed in a white miniskirt that moves easily with the breeze and in a pink champagne silk top with a bit of cleavage. Some makeup, blush, mascara, smoky eyes and lipstick. I have an ankle bracelet, a couple of silver bands on my wrist, hoop earrings and a necklace. A touch of Chanel #5. If I need a bit more color, Goddess helps to complete the outfit.
    As my outfit is complete the doorbell rings and I go to welcome Goddess’ friends. Teasing me and telling me how girlie I look, they are looking forward to the evening’s entertainment. Each has a small wrapped package marked “For Susie Q”. Though don’t know exactly what is planned I know my ceremony will be the main event.
    Earlier in the day I had been instructed to empty my closet of all my man things and to set them in separate piles next to each of the chairs around the fire pit. By each chair I have placed a champagne flute. After I have served Goddess’ guests being pinched, fondled and slapped pn my pantied butt Goddess summons me outside to enter the center of the group and start the fire.
    With Goddess’ permission I curtsey to each of the guests and one by one kiss their feet and ask each to place an item or two of my man things into the fire. Beginning again around the group in turn I kiss their thughs just above the knee and ask them to throw more things into the fire. Then I am instructed by Goddess to approach each and ask permission to place my face and nose to their panties and inhale deeply so that I may breathe in the scent of a real woman. As I do I am to beg them to place the last of their piles into the fire.
    Goddess then instructs me to enter the center of the circle and lift my skirt to display my engorged sissy stick. In the center of the circle is a small satin pillow. On it is gold necklace a key. Alongside, a small padlock.
    I ask for permission to remove my panties so that I am naked underneath my skirt, my pink ribbon for girlish decoration.
    With Goddess’ direction I thank everyone for make this such a special moment in helping me to become the sissy girl of my dreams. The packages the women brought are placed before me and I open them one by one. Pretty new panties, bras, lingerie, dresses, shoes. The reality is setting in. I have indeed been feminized and there is no turning back. Though part of me is wanting to take it all back, my sissy clit says otherwise, jutting out and proclaiming how excited I am by it all.
    Goddess says that before the final ceremony there is one more item to be dealt with. She asks me to tell everyone my greatest desire as a new sissy. Goddess says that in the coming months I will be used for her entertainment and that of her friends but this night is for me to choose. She knows that as I have become more girlie, images of sucking the hard cock of a real man increasingly fill my mind.
    Now it can come true but I know I must beg for it and so I do. I go to Goddess and kneel before her. “Dear Goddess, you know I belong only to you but I beg you to allow me to offer myself to a man of your choosing . I want to amuse your friends by taking him into my mouth and becoming a true cocksucking sissy girl. I want to make him hard, take his hot meat into my mouth and taste his hot cum. Please let me do this on this special night”.
    Goddess nods, the ladies applaud and Goddess rings a small bell. As if from no where a gorgeous man appears and enters the circle. Trembling I kneel before him, loosen his belt and let his pants slide to the floor. As I take him into my hand his cock begins to stiffen, My sissy stick is as hard as it gets. First tentatively and then with growing urgency I take him into my mouth. With the encouragements of the ladies I take him as deep as I can and work him to the edge. The flashes of cameras remind me just how far down this path I have now traveled. Too soon he begins to thrust and his hot cum fills my mouth. Swallowing as much as I can, I savor the moment .

    Soon Goddess tells me that it is time for a toast. Everyone’s champagne glasses are full except mine. She tells me that as everyone will count down from ten to zero and at zero I am to fill my glass with my sissy cream. TEN, NINE ,EIGHT SEVEN SIX FIVE FOUR THREE TWO ONE ZERO – SQUIRT! Aaahhhh. Don’t spill a drop.
    One more thing before we drink, and she hands me a small package. “You are truly my sissy girl, I am now the sole owner of your sissy stick and I love you for your submission to me”. I open it to find a chastity device and a note telling me to put it on and lock it in place with the padlock on the satin pillow. As I click the lock shut I gaze gratefully at Goddess and kneel before her. She bows her head slightly and I place the necklace with the key around her neck. Lifting my flute of sissy cream, I offer a toast to my supreme Goddess.

    Now then, she says, clean up around here while my friends and I discuss some plans for your future.

    2) Now close your eyes and imagine that person in your fantasy. Give that person a name. It’s ok if it sounds stupid. You can always change it later as you begin to discover your inner person.
    The person in my fantasy is Susie q. The Goddess is Goddess Josephine. In truth it could proceed in a variety of ways – Susie being feminized more gradually,giving a fashion show, with another sissy, providing oral service to all the women, perhaps beneath a queening chair, subjected to a spanking or CBT, attending to Goddess in public. The unifying themes are some form of feminization, emasculation and submission to Goddess. That is the heart of the matter and the most important part. My desire is submission to someone who desires and is turned on by my submission to her. Without that and without the enjoyment of my Goddess it is only masturbation, a long standing tradition but not my fantasy.
    3) Who is the person most people see? The dad, husband, business man, etc. Describe what he looks like, what people think of him and most importantly what you think of yourself.

    Most people see a capable, intelligent and caring man. Blue eyes, graying longish hair, a diamond earring. Six feet tall, 165 pounds, typically thought to be pretty good looking. I am a loving husband, with my wife for over 30 years. I have two wonderful children. I am PHD educated and have considerable responsibility in my work. I have a staff of a 35 highly capable professionals and responsibility for hundreds of millions of dollars. I think well of myself and cherish what I have and what I have been able to accomplish. This is of the duality you speak of. This life is important to me too. But still I come back to what has been long been inside me – like the moth to the flame

    4) Now using a percentage write down how much time you WISH you could spend being each persona. Example: Josephine 60%, Goddess Josephine 25%, Bitch Goddess 15%. Be realistic and honest. Don’t do it while your cock is hard. Next to the percentage try and explain why you assigned that percentage.

    It is difficult to assign a percentage. Perhaps 20% of the time as Susie q, but knowing that she is with me throughout. By the way, a bunch of Goddess Josephine and a bit of Bitch Goddess sounds like a good mix to push me. I take it hard if you are stern with me and need your reassurances. But perhaps it is stern that I need to challenge myself.
    The biggest reason for my percentage is my wife. I am one of those 6 of 10 callers that hasn’t been able to get my wife interested. Is it a contradiction to say quite clearly that I love her very much? I don’t think so. My fear for all of this is that if discovered she would feel terribly hurt and our relationship damaged. Part of what I remind myself is that I strive to be a good wife and care for her needs. In that way I devote myself to at least a part of my desires. At times I think, what if she were not here, how high would that percentage be? No doubt higher. My work takes much of my time but it is not a core issue. I could not work as Susie q but she can be there with me. I report to a woman and most of my staff are women. Gives me more opportunity for girl talk.
    4) Now write down the challenges you’re faced with in expressing your other alternate personas. Is it time, money, fear or understanding? Really think about this and write it down

    The biggest challenges are as noted above. Frankly I am not embarrassed or ashamed to myself for what I am and want to be. Though I should note that my image of myself as a woman is a woman with class and pride, not foolish. Money is a bit of a factor in that although I earn a good salary I do not have my own bank accounts. I write very few checks and have long simply handed over my money to my wife to manage. That is why I use gift cards that I buy with cash I tuck away here and there when calling LDW or buying gifts. Any money I spend other than cash essentially is processed by my wife. As I said above I do have a fear that discovery would have negative impacts on a host of things in the other parts of my life, things that I value.

    That said, I have entered this journey with you because you I believe you are very special and I am prepared to submit myself to you in many ways. I hope you will not be impatient with me as I try to juggle the various parts of the duality. When my wife is traveling almost all of my free hours have been devoted to you. When she is here, it is difficult to find a few minutes.
    The words you wrote work for me:
    Dear Goddess Josephine,
    You are the woman of my dreams. I respect your intelligence and trust your intuition. I would be honored if you would accept me as a student to help me discover and fulfill my emotional, spiritual and sexual fantasies. I realize that I need your guidance in balancing all of this so that I can be the best that I can be so that I can also be that for you. As part of my commitment I offer you;

    1) Total obedience and submission. I will not orgasm without your permission.
    2) I can afford to call you three times a month for 30 minutes each call. (I will do my best to afford this – perhaps less than 30-minutes could work )
    3) I promise to report to you via email, as required in your training program at least 3 times per week.
    4) I will comply with every order and if for some reason I cannot comply I will beg to be punished.
    5) To show my appreciation I will also include tributes and gifts monthly as part of my budget.

    Please accept this mission of submission. I do have a few limits:

    1) No marking on my body. I am married.
    2) I may not always be able to fulfill your requirements as quickly as I would like,

    Thank you Goddess Josephine.
    Respectfully,
    Susie q wants to Be Your Slave

    • ladyspet

      Wow! Well done and well stated. No doubt you have kept all this inside yourself without release for a long long time. i am sure Goddess Josephine will help you get it all sorted out. She has helped me in the brief time i have known Her. my journey with her as been somewhat interrupted because i just recently lost my job and am actively looking for another. But i am looking forward to continuing the journey with Her. As i am not married (never have been), my situation and story are different than yours. But i have not yet been able to articulate the fantasies that mull around in my brain the way you have just now. As far as communicating with your wife, in a previous career, i was a team leader for a movement called Marriage Encounter, which taught a technique of communication for married couples. It is a very powerful and life changing weekend. i wrote a comment about that over at phonesexforcouples.com

      • You have much to learn LP. You are about to learn you hardest lesson yet…. it’s hard to focus on someone other then yourself.

        Now about coffee… I went FOUR days without my favorite coffee and can’t believe that between THREE of you I ran out. It can’t ever happen again. I don’t care how you work it out

    • Josephine

      I think it’s higher then 20%. I’ll guess 40% but I wouldn’t completely define that as suzie q. I think you are genuinely submissive and prefer a woman being in control. I think that your true desire is to please, serve and when you’re doing this you resonate. I believe you can somehow merge this into other areas of you life and relationships without any flags. This would be ideal in your world and where you’ll find the most happiness.

      I think we should re-define your aspects. This is also why meditation is so important. Why don’t you take some time and really think about this. Put suzie on the back burner for now and let’s see who “submissive name” is. The fantasies you have around ritual and ceremony tell me a lot. It is a spiritual transformation for you, beyond sexual, although I do believe sex being the highest vibration on the planet and therefore the most powerful magic of all.

  • bradley boy

    Goddess

    just joined your blog and this was the first post I’ve read. It was intelligent, very insightful, and helpful as it does nail most guys, including me. Much to ponder and think through…..

  • ladyspet

    i was sitting in front of my laptop working on finding my ideal new job when i got Your email about this blog entry. After reading it, i am even more convinced that You are my ideal, and i am honored to be considered Your slave. i have not had an orgasm without your permission since i purchased Your 7 day tease audio. Soon i hope to be able to afford to call you at least 3 times a month once i land my new job. i will continue to comply with every one of your orders. i will continue to report my progress via email ( but not bombard You with emails as i have in the past…smile). AND last but not least i promise to make sure You never run low on coffee again! It’s important that You are happy. I adore You Goddess. And i truly appreciate the time You give me.

    • I know you appreciate me and you prove it over and over. Take your time. I know you don’t have a job right now and I’m happy to keep working with you until you’re able. Everything will be ok. I just know it!

      Love
      Jo

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